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I'm nobody's teenage daughter, but I still have some rules...
It probably seems like I might have earned the title of your forever single friend- but that's probably, hopefully only half true. I've become really good at being on my own & I have found that I am pretty picky. But to me- that's a good thing. I don't want to waste my time or waste anybody else's time either. But if you're looking to snag a date or get to know me- these are some of my unwritten 'rules'- until now!
1. Must love dogs (and giraffes, and bears, and elephants and hermit crabs and well ok- most animals)
No- we're not going back in time to an early 2000's movie. But if you know me- even a little- you've probably picked up that I'm a massive animal lover. Since I could remember, I would rescue any critter that was hanging out inside. Give me spiders, caterpillars, centipedes, bees and just about everything in between- I'd rescue them. I'll stomp on your mosquitoes or ticks- but really that's the extent of it. One of my dreams in this life is to raise a baby bear named Todd. I have major puppy senses & will stop any conversation to acknowledge a dog. I mean- can you even trust somebody who doesn't love dogs? My future guy- wherever you are-if you don't love dogs, then I don't know if I can love you. You don't have to want to save all the critters or raise a baby bear- but loving dogs, that's a must.
2. Gotta be impartial to the ink
This one might sound a little weird-and maybe it's all in my head- I'll let you decide. Currently- I only have 5 tattoos, soon to be 6. I'm sure that over the years- I'll gain that double digit status. I'm not asking for my guy to have tattoos or even to love tattoos- but I need somebody who doesn't despise them or is appalled by them. Why? If you're appalled by something- are you going to love looking at it? Most of my tattoos are covered on a daily basis by clothes- but the minute I take them off, SURPRISE! I don't want somebody to not fully love what they see. I'm sure a quality guy wouldn't let this be an issue- but it'll be in the back of my head.
3. Understands that sharing is caring- but not when it comes to Nutella
Yes- you read that right. I am 29 years old and I won't share my Nutella. If you know me in the slightest- you know not mess with that. This is a simple one- I'll share pretty much anything, even my food if I really like you. But my Nutella is off limits.
3.5. Must understand sarcasm
4. Need to have those goals & ambitions
I think this is something that for so many people is important. I'm such a dreamer and I've become really active in trying to accomplish my dreams. I'm losing a lot of that fear that includes the whole "what if I fail" questions. I need somebody who can not only support my goals & ambitions- but somebody who has their own. I want somebody who is challenging themselves & who isn't always afraid to just go for it & see what happens. With that comes inspiration & I want to feel inspired by my guy. I want to support somebody, help them achieve their wildest dreams & stand by them no matter what the outcome is. If you have a list of goals & dreams- bring it on!
5. Accepts that I need to be left alone 40%(ish) of the time
Now I always get push back on this one & people always tell me that number should be lower. Here's the thing; I'm very independent. I have been for a very long time. And I can't do needy. I get bothered when people are up in my business 24/7. I have always needed my space & my alone time. That time might be spent in front of my sewing machine or watching TV or with a good book- but regardless, I need it. I need it.
I need it. My guy has to be ok with the fact that I am going to have things going on in my life that maybe he's not totally involved in or that I'm going to need my alone time. I want him to have the same things. I want us to grow on our own & together. I need somebody who can respect and accept that I'm not the kind of girl who is going to ask permission to do something or to make plans. I'm going to keep doing my thing both with you & on my own (it's really a nice combo). I need somebody who is there for me always - and for me, being there for me sometimes means not being there at all.
6. Loves kids, but loves giving them back
Here's the thing- I love kids! But I love giving them back to their parents even more. For me, I don't picture kids in my future- it is what it is. I'm going to do a whole separate post about this life choice because I get a lot of kickback. But, I don't want to waste somebody's time if they want kids. I'm sure I'd make a solid mom- but I make a great freakin' aunt. Hopefully my guy has high hopes of being the best uncle ever too & together we can be the best duo for all our nieces & nephews.
7. Ready to make all the memories
I've written about this before about how a few years ago- my sister & I chose memories over things. Most of my family & even a lot of my friends have followed in these footsteps. Instead of giving gifts, we're going to concerts, plays, taking classes, just getting out there & exploring! I'm not saying that I want to do this all day every day- but I want to make memories. I want to explore , try new things, see shows & make all the memories I can. So my guy- I hope you're ready to have some fun!
8. Accept the challenge that I have high walls
I'm a tough cookie & the walls that I have built have been standing strong since I was a kid. I have built them so high & have had them for so long that it is so ridiculously hard for me to let somebody take them down brick by brick. I take a long time to really open up to people & let them in. I'm cautious with who I choose to know those sides of me & I have been tremendously lucky that so many people love me for all my different sides. My guy needs patience to get to know me. He needs to take it slow & to not get frustrated that it can be difficult to get to my core. Don't forget to throw in a little bit (ok maybe a lot) of stubbornness on my end for an extra challenge too. I open up when I see that somebody really does want to get to know me & that I can trust them. I won't often take down the walls myself- but I'll let somebody take a brick down & start to make a path to climb over. There's a lot to me, to my past & to my stories. I am much more than you might think I am but I promise- I'm worth the work if you have it in you.
And that's it!
I don't think that any of these listed above are so ridiculous or outrageous. I think they're honest & they're real. If I'm going to be with somebody, I want it to be a quality relationship that has the ability & potential to grow into something spectacular. I'm not a serial dater & I am in no rush to be in a relationship most days. I've always joked that if I ever did get married- that it would happen when I'm 56. So really, I have time! Here's to finding my guy- wherever he may be! And if he shows up with a puppy & Nutella- he'll get automatic bonus points!
My name is Kristina and I'm the founder of Love Struck. Read about how Love Struck came to be, see how I make it happen or just read a random thought I just might have! Anything can happen at our blog & I wouldn't have it any other way! It's time to get Love Struck, and what better way to start than right here!