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I think that in this day in age, sadly, we are all accustomed to a certain amount of body shaming. It seems that nobody can be satisfied & it leads to bashing others based on their looks. Nobody can get it right, but the question is, is there really a "right" when it comes to the way we look?
The answer to that is no, there is no right because we should have been taught at an early age & reminded that it does not matter what somebody looks like on the outside, it's what the inside that counts. So, why then, are so many people bashing others on the way they appear? Doesn't the phrase 'don't judge a book by it's cover' ring a bell?
It's no surprise that this happens daily, but it's been bothering tremendously lately as I have continuously seen all these headlines of people weight shaming celebs like Kelly Clarkson, Giuliana Rancic, Jaime King & countless others; all for different reasons.
It's not just fat shaming, a phrase that makes me cringe, we're also bashing those who appear to be too skinny. Why are we commenting on the way women look while pregnant or how they look post giving birth? Why are we taking the focus away from something so beautiful to talk about weight? So many people are making comments about what somebody looks like with or without makeup on, if they're wearing the 'right' clothes, if their teeth aren't perfect, if their hair isn't done just right, if they're posing a certain way, and the list goes on and on...
Why the heck is something like this still happening? Is it that hard to applaud somebody for looking great despite if they look different? Why are we solely judging people on the way they look or appear to look in pictures? Why aren't we taking all this energy in bringing somebody down and putting it towards something worthwhile? It's so simple too; just say something nice, pay it forward, volunteer for an afternoon, make a donation to a worthy cause, do something worthy. This world can be such a more beautiful place if we eliminate all the negative energy & replace it with light, with comfort, with kindness, with empathy, with knowledge, with helpfulness, etc.
So why some days do I feel like I should I have to justify why I'm 25 years old, 4'10" and a size 10 with curves? Why does it matter to you that I have any extra jiggle? It doesn't matter how strong I might be because there are days when I look at myself and I think, "gosh, I don't even want to look at me today.", or "what a load I am.", because I have bad days, I have days when my self esteem dips. But why does my society have to play into that?
What I'm trying to get at is, we all have bad days when we are down on ourselves. We are all surrounded by those who feel it's ok to body shame. But we have to remind ourselves the greatness that's inside of us & the greatness that is on the outside too. We can't participate in the shaming, we have to bring more to this world than negativity.
So here it is...
My name is Kristina, I am 25 years old, I have dark brown eyes & a smile I often get complimented on. I have curves, thick thighs, large breasts and a tummy that has never been defined.
My weight fluctuates as does my pant size. I've been anywhere between a size 6 and a size 12. Each one of those sizes I've felt proud and each one of those sizes I've had moments of insecurity.
I am healthy. I see my doctors regularly & I have continuously been healthy. I take my vitamins, I drink water, I eat veggies & fruit. There are days (yes, plural), where I indulge. I'll eat a spoonful or 2 of Nutella, I eat pizza & I don't feel bad about it. I never want to feel bad about my indulgences.
There are days I work out for an hour, some days it's only 15 minutes and guess what? Some days I skip it entirely.
But enough about that, I am well educated. I went to an incredible college where I graduated with a BA. I was a student leader for 2 different volunteer programs, I volunteered outside of those programs because I grew up volunteering since I was 7 years old. I have been on 4 different service trips throughout the country serving others. They have taught me more than I could have ever learned by staying in my comfort zone.
I work hard; I work full time. On the side I also own my own small business, I am also co-chair to a huge community event in my town both of which are often full time jobs by themselves. I spend my days finding ways to help others, to share my stories & to continuously to learn more.
I am kind, I am sarcastic, I have a good brain in my head & a good head on my shoulders. I aim to help & I know that I am not perfect but that every day I'll continue to grow & be a better version of me than I was yesterday. I have no desire to be anybody else. I choose to be me & there are days when being me isn't easy, and it isn't perfect but I am indeed, a work in progress. I always will be.
So if you see me this summer in my bikini or in a tight dress completely rocking it with confidence, please don't snicker, please don't look disgusted. Instead, think about what kind of person I may be, please commend me on my personal confidence & please quit the body shaming.
My name is Kristina and I'm the founder of Love Struck. Read about how Love Struck came to be, see how I make it happen or just read a random thought I just might have! Anything can happen at our blog & I wouldn't have it any other way! It's time to get Love Struck, and what better way to start than right here!